As you know I am not one to post others blogs but again in less then a month I find a writer that I must acknowledge on my blog.
Adopting Mothers Must Lead the Fight Agianst Unethical Adoptions
This writer is a mother. An adoptive mother. And she fights for what she calls ethical adoptions. She says it is the duty of any adoptive parent to ensure that the adoption they are pursuing is an adoption that has been willingly consented by all parents unless there are very clear signs of abuse or neglect.
This writer has earned my respect in spades. She says the same as I have. That adoption is about finding families for children who do not have loving parents who are capable of taking care of them. Not about providing children at all cost to adopting parents to choose from. She even goes on to say that that means if an adopting parent finds out that the adoption was not ethically done that it is the adopting parents ethical duty to ensure the rights of the biological parents are upheld and that the child they claim to love has the right to be raised in their biological home first and foremost.
So where does that leave the couple who has my sons? They know, and have known for a very long time, that what they were told about how my children ended up in care and about me was lies. They also know I have been cleared of all abuse and cleared of ever being an addict. Would this woman, also an adopting parent, consider them ethical in the fact that they know I am fit, they know I am able and they know I am willing and have been for many years(since prior to the PGO being granted). My children were placed with them because of lies and unethical workers. Yet where were they in fighting for the rights of my sons and their right to be returned home to their one true mother?
As this lady goes on to say, my sons will grow up. They will ask questions and I will make it very easy to find me. This couple can't shut me up and they can only shut me out for so long. What will be their answer to my sons questions when they find my blog and learn the truth of how they were legally kidnapped. How will they explain how they condoned my sons kidnapping? How will they explain how they condoned the cutting out of their sister from their lives and the couples part in that? How will they explain the lies they were told by the workers and the couple about me and their sister? Their perfect "family" unit is on a path that they are not prepared for.
Unlike them though I do have the answers. I don't need to think up more lies to cover more lies as they will have to. I will show them all the proof and evidence I have when they find me. This couple can buy them all the stuff they want and take them on all the trips they want to. But none of that will save them from the truth coming out. None of that will stop my sons from finding me and when the truth is learned all of what this couple did to have this "perfect family" at the expense of the destruction of their biological family, the reaction might be the complete cost of what they deem are their sons.
Maybe they should read this article and learn about what ethics are and what adoption is meant to be.
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Wednesday, October 28, 2015
My Letter to Rachel Notley and Justin Trudeau
I wrote to them this morning. I will let you all know if I get a response. I will continue to write to them and others till we are heard. I have proven over 7yrs I will not go away or stop. I have no intention to now.
"To the leader of Alberta and the leader of this beautiful country I have always called home. My name is Nicole. I am a 39yr old mother to 4 absolutely beautiful children. I am also a voice to victims of childhood abuse, rape, domestic violence and of the Children and Family Services of Alberta as well as a voice for justice for those the police ignore in their duties to serve and protect.
I was born and raised in this beautiful country that I always thought was a place of freedom and justice. I always trusted the justice system and those in charge of our government and working for government agencies. Call me naïve but I always thought truth would always conquer lies. Well I learned a hard truth this past September after a 7yr fight.
Just a little back history to understand where I am coming from. I was raised by a severely abusive mother. A woman that has gone on to abuse 7 children all total. Myself, 3 step children who are now adults and my first 3 children. Even though I went to authorities about the abuse many times(first time when I was 16, then again when I was 19, and again in 2013), and even though 5 of the 7 victims of this womans abuse came forward to police willing to testify and giving their statements in the 2013 investigation, and even though they had doctor reports of cigarette burns to a 3yr old(resulting in deep tissue trauma that was still there and not healed a year later), statements of having to eat thrown up dog food, statements of having urine soaked shirts wrapped around their heads till their eyes burned, statements from victims of repeated death threats, of being left out in sever cold and the elements with no protective clothes and in some cases just their underwear, pictures of one of the children in a malnourished state along with multiple bruising, statements of being tied to beds and chairs for hours on end, statements of being locked in rooms from 5pm at night till 7am in the morning with no access to bathroom. I could go on and on. This woman has never been charged. Not once. We the victims keep being told there is not enough evidence and that because of the fact she abused us all in different cities(though same province) they are required to split up the investigation so that the supporting evidence to the abuse of my kids does not help the step kids or my case. As well as the supporting history and evidence of the step kids case and my case(which shows the history and cycle of abuse) can not help my childrens case. My daughter who is 16 and was brave enough to go to police and give her statement is feeling totally abandoned by our justice system. The police excuse for not even talking to the abuser is that she refused to come in to the station. So a serial child abuser can walk free and not even be charged with her crimes just because she refuses to talk? Is that justice? 5 victims(4 of them adults) come forward to police willing to testify and still no charges are laid even with picture evidence, doctors reports, community witnesses and the victims own statements along with Child and Family Services records backing up everything stated is not enough to have an abuser charged so that the victims can have a voice at trial? Could you please explain to me why that is?
Again a bit of back story. Because of being raised in horrific abuse(only the tip of the iceburg is listed above), I followed the usual pattern and married someone who ended up also being an abuser. We had 3 beautiful children together but he was also an addict which I learned shortly after the birth of my 3rd son. I also have PTSD and Agoraphobia because of the abuse I was raised in and being raped at 12. After learning of the addictions of my husband I went to my doctor in Dec 2007, like we are advised too, to get help for post partum depression. I was depressed, not suicidal. He put me on medication. Both of us not realizing that I am susceptible to the rare side effects. One of the side effects of the medication he put me on was suicidal thoughts and tendencies. Within 2 months I was so depressed I was suicidal. But my doctor did not realize the medication was the issue. Because of that and my husband(at the time) addictions Child and Family Services stepped in. AS THEY SHOULD HAVE. I needed help. They removed my children and placed them with my mother, even though they knew her history of horrifically abusing myself and her previous step children. With in a few months my children stated to show the signs of trama and abuse. But my mother convinced CFS that I was abusing my children when I visited or called them. During this time the medication kept me in a deep depression and because of having a mental illness CFS prejudged me. They offered me no supports in the small town I resided in.
After a year and a half(in May of 2009) my new psychologist in a new city I moved too, realized that it was the medication and took me off of all of it. My life stabilized completely. The October previous I had got a new therapist and attended group therapy at the victims of domestic violence run in the Womens Shelter and continued to attend for over a year. I learned so much I left my ex and never looked back. I fought like crazy to get my children back but because of my mothers lies, the prejudice of the workers I never had a chance. I was not an addict. I was not a criminal. I had never abused my children, though my mother convinced them I had, all the while she was abusing them herself. I had to resort to video taping all visits(every week), audio taping all meetings with workers because the lies were coming from the workers themselves. But no matter what I did, regardless of legislation in the CFS Acts stating they are to do all they can to keep the domestic violence victim parent with the children, I lost the PGO in Nov of 2010. I was naïve to family court then and to working with lawyers. As soon as trial was over, yet a month before a verdict CFS cut my contact with my kids. No termination visit, no goodbye offered. Nothing. Yet no safety concerns noted.
Now I know most people will think this is just an angry abusive mom who rightfully lost her children complaining. That is where my story is different. After the PGO was granted and all contact terminated I still didn't give up. I knew it was granted on lies. And doing what any person would do if falsely accused and having their family ripped apart, I never stopped fighting to clear my name. My new partner(since the fall of 2009), and now fiancé, and I knew there was literally nothing we could say or do to prove my innocence. The prejudice against mental illness is that strong. That we decided the only way to prove I was not what I was accused of was to have another baby together. After 6 miscarriages we were blessed with a beautiful baby boy in the fall of 2012. 2 months prior to him being born I was made aware that in the spring of 2011, 5 months after the PGO was granted against me and the permanency plan was for my children to stay at my mothers, my children had been removed from her for exactly the horrific abuse that I and the step children had been saying was happening all along. I learned this from a community member who witnessed some of it. I had repeatedly emailed workers and called them asking for updates and to send gifts never once being told this happened. Because of my son showing signs of a cleft in utero though we did not contact CFS right away. Our community support worker(Bridges is what they are called and they are mandated reporters who are funded through CFS and who we brought into our home when we were 5 months pregnant) knew all of this. We decided to wait till he had his first 2 week check up at the Children's Hospital before contacting CFS in the town my kids had been at for re-evaluation. But my daughter(then 14) changed that by contacting us after he was only a week old via FB. She had been told I didn't want her, had abused her and could not take care of a child. She immediately demanded to see me. Her worker was not happy as she wanted my children to be adopted and told me straight to my face that it did not matter how the PGO was granted but that it was granted and my children no longer belonged to me and there is no obligation on the departments part, no matter how the PGO is obtained, to ever re-evaluate the biological parents. And that I was living in a fantasy land if I ever though I would get my children back. She didn't know me. I immediately went to the police, as they never did even with the condition of my then 3yr old upon removal from my mothers. And started the investigation into my mother and her abuse with all 3 step kids agreeing to testify as well as my daughter.
My sons in the fall of 2012 were matched with a prospective family yet no meeting had taken place by the time I contacted their worker. The worker rushed the meeting and rushed them into this couples care at the other end of the province and then cut contact between my daughter and her brothers with no explanation to my daughter as to why once she and I started having visits. Then she passed my daughters file on to another worker. THis worker actually read the file and admitted to my face that grievous errors had been made. That I never abused my children or was an addict but since she did not have my sons file she could not return them but she could return my daughter to me. June of 2014 my daughter was permanently home. Dec 2014 her PGO was rescinded. In the spring of 2014 I learned of the new legislation that allows a parent to file to have the PGO reviewed by a judge. I immediately filed. I had no lawyer, I had no legal help what so ever. What I had was an intense knowledge of this case that no one else had, I was a mother who had never given up proving I was fit, able and willing. In June of 2014 I received full disclosure from the department of my childrens file and I was completely appalled by what I saw. They knew of the abuse. My mother turned on every person working with my children and her within 2 months of contact with me being cut. Even knowing and having doctors records, witness statements and so on of the abuse they still did not go to police, seek child lead therapy for my children or even contact me admitting their mistake or to work with reuniting my children and I. They instead proceeded to cover it up. I demanded a trial. I was bringing ever professional support person I had brought into my life to show my fitness to trial. I had proven so well that my home was fit and I was mentally capable of parenting that I never lost custody of my 4th, got my daughter back and now am on a journey where our family will be growing even more. CFS here in the city I now reside in has deemed us fit and when a criminal records check was done my partner and I are both cleared for the vulnerable sectors search. I had 6 professional witness, all working for, funded for, or contracted with CFS here in my city testifying to watching me parent regularly over a long period of time and to how fit I am. The trial was 2 weeks long. I self represented.
And the verdict? I was CLEARED of ever abusing my children. I was CLEARED of ever being an addict. The judge deemed me fit, able and willing to take my sons back. So why do I not have them in my custody? Because of legislation. The Alberta legislation is written so that no matter how a PGO is granted that after it is granted, if the parent can't afford to appeal within 30 days of the verdict(my case), that there is 0 obligation to ever consider the parents for re-evaluation. It does not matter if you prove clear prejudice. It does not matter if the workers involved in pursuing the PGO admit in hindsight that they were wrong and if they could go back they would not pursue removing my children from me(I have their own records to prove this). It does not matter if you prove omitted facts, prove altered records, prove the workers perjured themselves. It does not matter that you can prove clear prejudice(their own records show this). So because they cut contact between my sons and I with no court order and refused to re-establish it no matter the hundreds of times I asked, because of "Best Interest of the Child" I lost part b of the trial. My sons, my daughter and myself now have a life sentence of never seeing each other. Why? What crime did we commit? I was cleared after fighting to prove my fitness for 7yrs. Fighting incredible odds to do so. My children were literally LEGALLY KIDNAPPED. Is that the justice system in Canada. That a parent can commit no crime, prove they are innocent of all charges and still lose their children permanently?
I am asking for an investigation into CFS (city names removed). I am asking for an investigation into my childrens file and the workers involved as I can assure you the criminal acts shown in their own records is appalling. I am also asking for an investigation into how this legislation in Alberta is written. No family, who proves they are innocent and fights so hard to get their children back, should have a life sentence of being destroyed while the actual abuser and the workers who did not do their jobs continue to do what they are doing. If a family proves they are innocent and shows they are fit then the family should be reunited with access to all supports to help that reunification happen. I have fought for 7yrs to clear my name. I won that. I will continue to fight to have my story heard till someone, somewhere stops this from happening to anyone else and my family finally sees justice. I can assure you I am not going away.
My partner and I voted for you. We saw you as a man of integrity, justice, and a family man. How long would you fight to have your children returned to you if you knew you lost custody on the lies and lack of ethics of other people?"
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"To the leader of Alberta and the leader of this beautiful country I have always called home. My name is Nicole. I am a 39yr old mother to 4 absolutely beautiful children. I am also a voice to victims of childhood abuse, rape, domestic violence and of the Children and Family Services of Alberta as well as a voice for justice for those the police ignore in their duties to serve and protect.
I was born and raised in this beautiful country that I always thought was a place of freedom and justice. I always trusted the justice system and those in charge of our government and working for government agencies. Call me naïve but I always thought truth would always conquer lies. Well I learned a hard truth this past September after a 7yr fight.
Just a little back history to understand where I am coming from. I was raised by a severely abusive mother. A woman that has gone on to abuse 7 children all total. Myself, 3 step children who are now adults and my first 3 children. Even though I went to authorities about the abuse many times(first time when I was 16, then again when I was 19, and again in 2013), and even though 5 of the 7 victims of this womans abuse came forward to police willing to testify and giving their statements in the 2013 investigation, and even though they had doctor reports of cigarette burns to a 3yr old(resulting in deep tissue trauma that was still there and not healed a year later), statements of having to eat thrown up dog food, statements of having urine soaked shirts wrapped around their heads till their eyes burned, statements from victims of repeated death threats, of being left out in sever cold and the elements with no protective clothes and in some cases just their underwear, pictures of one of the children in a malnourished state along with multiple bruising, statements of being tied to beds and chairs for hours on end, statements of being locked in rooms from 5pm at night till 7am in the morning with no access to bathroom. I could go on and on. This woman has never been charged. Not once. We the victims keep being told there is not enough evidence and that because of the fact she abused us all in different cities(though same province) they are required to split up the investigation so that the supporting evidence to the abuse of my kids does not help the step kids or my case. As well as the supporting history and evidence of the step kids case and my case(which shows the history and cycle of abuse) can not help my childrens case. My daughter who is 16 and was brave enough to go to police and give her statement is feeling totally abandoned by our justice system. The police excuse for not even talking to the abuser is that she refused to come in to the station. So a serial child abuser can walk free and not even be charged with her crimes just because she refuses to talk? Is that justice? 5 victims(4 of them adults) come forward to police willing to testify and still no charges are laid even with picture evidence, doctors reports, community witnesses and the victims own statements along with Child and Family Services records backing up everything stated is not enough to have an abuser charged so that the victims can have a voice at trial? Could you please explain to me why that is?
Again a bit of back story. Because of being raised in horrific abuse(only the tip of the iceburg is listed above), I followed the usual pattern and married someone who ended up also being an abuser. We had 3 beautiful children together but he was also an addict which I learned shortly after the birth of my 3rd son. I also have PTSD and Agoraphobia because of the abuse I was raised in and being raped at 12. After learning of the addictions of my husband I went to my doctor in Dec 2007, like we are advised too, to get help for post partum depression. I was depressed, not suicidal. He put me on medication. Both of us not realizing that I am susceptible to the rare side effects. One of the side effects of the medication he put me on was suicidal thoughts and tendencies. Within 2 months I was so depressed I was suicidal. But my doctor did not realize the medication was the issue. Because of that and my husband(at the time) addictions Child and Family Services stepped in. AS THEY SHOULD HAVE. I needed help. They removed my children and placed them with my mother, even though they knew her history of horrifically abusing myself and her previous step children. With in a few months my children stated to show the signs of trama and abuse. But my mother convinced CFS that I was abusing my children when I visited or called them. During this time the medication kept me in a deep depression and because of having a mental illness CFS prejudged me. They offered me no supports in the small town I resided in.
After a year and a half(in May of 2009) my new psychologist in a new city I moved too, realized that it was the medication and took me off of all of it. My life stabilized completely. The October previous I had got a new therapist and attended group therapy at the victims of domestic violence run in the Womens Shelter and continued to attend for over a year. I learned so much I left my ex and never looked back. I fought like crazy to get my children back but because of my mothers lies, the prejudice of the workers I never had a chance. I was not an addict. I was not a criminal. I had never abused my children, though my mother convinced them I had, all the while she was abusing them herself. I had to resort to video taping all visits(every week), audio taping all meetings with workers because the lies were coming from the workers themselves. But no matter what I did, regardless of legislation in the CFS Acts stating they are to do all they can to keep the domestic violence victim parent with the children, I lost the PGO in Nov of 2010. I was naïve to family court then and to working with lawyers. As soon as trial was over, yet a month before a verdict CFS cut my contact with my kids. No termination visit, no goodbye offered. Nothing. Yet no safety concerns noted.
Now I know most people will think this is just an angry abusive mom who rightfully lost her children complaining. That is where my story is different. After the PGO was granted and all contact terminated I still didn't give up. I knew it was granted on lies. And doing what any person would do if falsely accused and having their family ripped apart, I never stopped fighting to clear my name. My new partner(since the fall of 2009), and now fiancé, and I knew there was literally nothing we could say or do to prove my innocence. The prejudice against mental illness is that strong. That we decided the only way to prove I was not what I was accused of was to have another baby together. After 6 miscarriages we were blessed with a beautiful baby boy in the fall of 2012. 2 months prior to him being born I was made aware that in the spring of 2011, 5 months after the PGO was granted against me and the permanency plan was for my children to stay at my mothers, my children had been removed from her for exactly the horrific abuse that I and the step children had been saying was happening all along. I learned this from a community member who witnessed some of it. I had repeatedly emailed workers and called them asking for updates and to send gifts never once being told this happened. Because of my son showing signs of a cleft in utero though we did not contact CFS right away. Our community support worker(Bridges is what they are called and they are mandated reporters who are funded through CFS and who we brought into our home when we were 5 months pregnant) knew all of this. We decided to wait till he had his first 2 week check up at the Children's Hospital before contacting CFS in the town my kids had been at for re-evaluation. But my daughter(then 14) changed that by contacting us after he was only a week old via FB. She had been told I didn't want her, had abused her and could not take care of a child. She immediately demanded to see me. Her worker was not happy as she wanted my children to be adopted and told me straight to my face that it did not matter how the PGO was granted but that it was granted and my children no longer belonged to me and there is no obligation on the departments part, no matter how the PGO is obtained, to ever re-evaluate the biological parents. And that I was living in a fantasy land if I ever though I would get my children back. She didn't know me. I immediately went to the police, as they never did even with the condition of my then 3yr old upon removal from my mothers. And started the investigation into my mother and her abuse with all 3 step kids agreeing to testify as well as my daughter.
My sons in the fall of 2012 were matched with a prospective family yet no meeting had taken place by the time I contacted their worker. The worker rushed the meeting and rushed them into this couples care at the other end of the province and then cut contact between my daughter and her brothers with no explanation to my daughter as to why once she and I started having visits. Then she passed my daughters file on to another worker. THis worker actually read the file and admitted to my face that grievous errors had been made. That I never abused my children or was an addict but since she did not have my sons file she could not return them but she could return my daughter to me. June of 2014 my daughter was permanently home. Dec 2014 her PGO was rescinded. In the spring of 2014 I learned of the new legislation that allows a parent to file to have the PGO reviewed by a judge. I immediately filed. I had no lawyer, I had no legal help what so ever. What I had was an intense knowledge of this case that no one else had, I was a mother who had never given up proving I was fit, able and willing. In June of 2014 I received full disclosure from the department of my childrens file and I was completely appalled by what I saw. They knew of the abuse. My mother turned on every person working with my children and her within 2 months of contact with me being cut. Even knowing and having doctors records, witness statements and so on of the abuse they still did not go to police, seek child lead therapy for my children or even contact me admitting their mistake or to work with reuniting my children and I. They instead proceeded to cover it up. I demanded a trial. I was bringing ever professional support person I had brought into my life to show my fitness to trial. I had proven so well that my home was fit and I was mentally capable of parenting that I never lost custody of my 4th, got my daughter back and now am on a journey where our family will be growing even more. CFS here in the city I now reside in has deemed us fit and when a criminal records check was done my partner and I are both cleared for the vulnerable sectors search. I had 6 professional witness, all working for, funded for, or contracted with CFS here in my city testifying to watching me parent regularly over a long period of time and to how fit I am. The trial was 2 weeks long. I self represented.
And the verdict? I was CLEARED of ever abusing my children. I was CLEARED of ever being an addict. The judge deemed me fit, able and willing to take my sons back. So why do I not have them in my custody? Because of legislation. The Alberta legislation is written so that no matter how a PGO is granted that after it is granted, if the parent can't afford to appeal within 30 days of the verdict(my case), that there is 0 obligation to ever consider the parents for re-evaluation. It does not matter if you prove clear prejudice. It does not matter if the workers involved in pursuing the PGO admit in hindsight that they were wrong and if they could go back they would not pursue removing my children from me(I have their own records to prove this). It does not matter if you prove omitted facts, prove altered records, prove the workers perjured themselves. It does not matter that you can prove clear prejudice(their own records show this). So because they cut contact between my sons and I with no court order and refused to re-establish it no matter the hundreds of times I asked, because of "Best Interest of the Child" I lost part b of the trial. My sons, my daughter and myself now have a life sentence of never seeing each other. Why? What crime did we commit? I was cleared after fighting to prove my fitness for 7yrs. Fighting incredible odds to do so. My children were literally LEGALLY KIDNAPPED. Is that the justice system in Canada. That a parent can commit no crime, prove they are innocent of all charges and still lose their children permanently?
I am asking for an investigation into CFS (city names removed). I am asking for an investigation into my childrens file and the workers involved as I can assure you the criminal acts shown in their own records is appalling. I am also asking for an investigation into how this legislation in Alberta is written. No family, who proves they are innocent and fights so hard to get their children back, should have a life sentence of being destroyed while the actual abuser and the workers who did not do their jobs continue to do what they are doing. If a family proves they are innocent and shows they are fit then the family should be reunited with access to all supports to help that reunification happen. I have fought for 7yrs to clear my name. I won that. I will continue to fight to have my story heard till someone, somewhere stops this from happening to anyone else and my family finally sees justice. I can assure you I am not going away.
My partner and I voted for you. We saw you as a man of integrity, justice, and a family man. How long would you fight to have your children returned to you if you knew you lost custody on the lies and lack of ethics of other people?"
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Sunday, October 18, 2015
My Middle Son Is Now 8yrs Old
Happy belated b-day MY son. Sorry I couldn't post yesterday. We were not home the past few days so had no ability to post to you on your special day.
Yesterday was a hard day for me. You were constantly on my mind. I thought about the 9 1/2 months I was pregnant with you. How sick to my stomach I was during it. I thought about the terror I felt when I started to bleed in the 8th month for working my body too much. I wanted you from the second I knew you existed. You were such a mover that your name, which means baby seal, was easy to decide on. I could feel you doing flips and moving around a lot. You had zero desire to leave my belly. You felt so safe. When you were 2 weeks late I tried to have you induced without medication several times. Never worked. So finally the doctor decided to spread a cream on me that would induce contractions. Within 30 minutes I was in agony. I had never in my life felt pain like that. The only thing that kept me going was knowing you would be my reward at the end. For 5 hours I went through the most painful labour I would ever go through. Even your little brother who was 2lbs heavier then you was not near as painful. I knew it had to be the medication. My labor with you was the shortest out of you and your 3 siblings though. So thank you so much for that my sweet boy.
When they laid you in my arms I was completely exhausted and so were you. The first 24 hours was terrifying as the medication from the epidural made you so tired you had little desire to breast feed. But once it was out of your system you chowed down happily. You were a complete joy right from the start. You were a very happy baby. You loved to smile and giggle. Nothing phased you or bothered you. You were strong as well. Within a week you could lay on your belly, push up with your hands and arms and hold you head up and your upper chest up for a few seconds. You also like to stand. You would constantly push with your feet to try and stand up. You loved to be a part of everything going on. We even took you to flyball competitions. You would shriek with joy as the dogs barked and ran their course. The noise did not bother you at all. Between heats you loved our friends coming over and holding you. You were a very friendly and relaxed baby. You could even sleep through the non stop barking.
Your crib was right beside my bed. For the first 5 months of your life you never left my sight. It was the worst day of my life when they came and took you away. I will never forget that day for as long as I live. I needed help my son but I never did anything to deserve losing you and you never did anything wrong to deserve to lose me or your siblings. I never abused you by sweet boy. I never was an addict as so many have tried to lie to you about. You will grow up hearing the worst lies imaginable about me and my life with you and your siblings. I wish I could ensure you heard the truth. You were always wanted and I am and was fit to raise you.
I am so sorry that during the 3yrs you were with your grandmother that you were put through such horrific things. I cried so hard when I read many of what you had been through from your file. You never did anything to deserve those things. It was never your fault. I know you most likely don't remember me or our many visits. But you felt loved by both me and Donald Duck as you and your older brother called him. You never stopped laughing with us. Your smile was infectious and your appetite was huge. You loved my cooking so much you always begged to take it home.
I am so sorry you have been ripped from your real family. A crime has been committed to you, your siblings and your entire family. A crime that should never happen to any child or family. YOU ARE A KIDNAPPED CHILD!! YOUR BROTHER IS A KIDNAPPED CHILD!! And some day you will both know the truth. Just because the legislation and a piece of paper says you are someone elses does not change the crime that was committed. It only made it legal kidnapping. I have been cleared of ever abusing you. Which means the PGO that was used to cut me and your sister out of your lives should never have been granted because it was granted on falsified information, proven perjured information, omitted facts and clear prejudice. And since the PGO should never have been granted that means I committed no crime that would have made it legal to adopted you to someone else without my consent. And I never consented. I never agreed and I never stopped fighting to bring you home or prove my innocence.
I will make sure the world knows that this government legally kidnaps children from parents who are not only fit but have cleared their name. I and others will work hard to change the legislation to ensure this never happens to another child or family. That will be your and your brothers legacy.
Some day you will find this blog. Some day you will know the truth as the truth has a way of coming out. May take a while but it will. Know on that day my door is always open. No piece of paper will cause me to ever accept another person as your parent. You will always be a member of this family and every child in it will grow up knowing who you and your brother are. You have a much larger and growing family then you know right now and every single one of them know your story and love you dearly.
Happy 8th b-day my son. I hope it was a great one.
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Yesterday was a hard day for me. You were constantly on my mind. I thought about the 9 1/2 months I was pregnant with you. How sick to my stomach I was during it. I thought about the terror I felt when I started to bleed in the 8th month for working my body too much. I wanted you from the second I knew you existed. You were such a mover that your name, which means baby seal, was easy to decide on. I could feel you doing flips and moving around a lot. You had zero desire to leave my belly. You felt so safe. When you were 2 weeks late I tried to have you induced without medication several times. Never worked. So finally the doctor decided to spread a cream on me that would induce contractions. Within 30 minutes I was in agony. I had never in my life felt pain like that. The only thing that kept me going was knowing you would be my reward at the end. For 5 hours I went through the most painful labour I would ever go through. Even your little brother who was 2lbs heavier then you was not near as painful. I knew it had to be the medication. My labor with you was the shortest out of you and your 3 siblings though. So thank you so much for that my sweet boy.
When they laid you in my arms I was completely exhausted and so were you. The first 24 hours was terrifying as the medication from the epidural made you so tired you had little desire to breast feed. But once it was out of your system you chowed down happily. You were a complete joy right from the start. You were a very happy baby. You loved to smile and giggle. Nothing phased you or bothered you. You were strong as well. Within a week you could lay on your belly, push up with your hands and arms and hold you head up and your upper chest up for a few seconds. You also like to stand. You would constantly push with your feet to try and stand up. You loved to be a part of everything going on. We even took you to flyball competitions. You would shriek with joy as the dogs barked and ran their course. The noise did not bother you at all. Between heats you loved our friends coming over and holding you. You were a very friendly and relaxed baby. You could even sleep through the non stop barking.
Your crib was right beside my bed. For the first 5 months of your life you never left my sight. It was the worst day of my life when they came and took you away. I will never forget that day for as long as I live. I needed help my son but I never did anything to deserve losing you and you never did anything wrong to deserve to lose me or your siblings. I never abused you by sweet boy. I never was an addict as so many have tried to lie to you about. You will grow up hearing the worst lies imaginable about me and my life with you and your siblings. I wish I could ensure you heard the truth. You were always wanted and I am and was fit to raise you.
I am so sorry that during the 3yrs you were with your grandmother that you were put through such horrific things. I cried so hard when I read many of what you had been through from your file. You never did anything to deserve those things. It was never your fault. I know you most likely don't remember me or our many visits. But you felt loved by both me and Donald Duck as you and your older brother called him. You never stopped laughing with us. Your smile was infectious and your appetite was huge. You loved my cooking so much you always begged to take it home.
I am so sorry you have been ripped from your real family. A crime has been committed to you, your siblings and your entire family. A crime that should never happen to any child or family. YOU ARE A KIDNAPPED CHILD!! YOUR BROTHER IS A KIDNAPPED CHILD!! And some day you will both know the truth. Just because the legislation and a piece of paper says you are someone elses does not change the crime that was committed. It only made it legal kidnapping. I have been cleared of ever abusing you. Which means the PGO that was used to cut me and your sister out of your lives should never have been granted because it was granted on falsified information, proven perjured information, omitted facts and clear prejudice. And since the PGO should never have been granted that means I committed no crime that would have made it legal to adopted you to someone else without my consent. And I never consented. I never agreed and I never stopped fighting to bring you home or prove my innocence.
I will make sure the world knows that this government legally kidnaps children from parents who are not only fit but have cleared their name. I and others will work hard to change the legislation to ensure this never happens to another child or family. That will be your and your brothers legacy.
Some day you will find this blog. Some day you will know the truth as the truth has a way of coming out. May take a while but it will. Know on that day my door is always open. No piece of paper will cause me to ever accept another person as your parent. You will always be a member of this family and every child in it will grow up knowing who you and your brother are. You have a much larger and growing family then you know right now and every single one of them know your story and love you dearly.
Happy 8th b-day my son. I hope it was a great one.
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Tuesday, October 13, 2015
WHEN DID KIDNAPPING BECOME A LEGAL CRIME?
If you think what happened to me and my children never happens please check out this recent story:
Parent's Cleared of Abuse Yet Denied Return Of Their Child
Society sadly has the misconception that if a social worker makes a mistake, if the parent can prove they are innocent, if they change their life around, that in the end they will get their children back. That is simply not the case. Social workers can ignore the rules of their job. They can make judgments solely based on how much they like someone with no evidence to back it up. Leaving parents desperate for help to save their family as their children are legally kidnapped from them. Knowing they are innocent yet having to suffer a life sentence of pain and suffering.
If someone is wrongly convicted of a crime they are granted their freedom along with an apology. If it is proven in court that people perjured themselves, lied on court documents, falsified records and so on then the judgment is thrown out against them. Their records cleared. So what happens to a family who loses their children because of lies, workers not doing their due diligence, prejudice and so on? They may be cleared as I have been but they will be required to forever suffer a life sentence because in the family courts the adopting families have more rights and more protections then the biological family.
I reside in Canada. When people think of Canada they usually think of a free country. Where people have rights and freedoms. Where families are protected and safe. Really? In my case the judge pointed out that even though I proved I was fit, able and willing, had been proven as such for a very long time, proved that I never abused my children, proved that I was never an addict, even proved that the one person making all the false allegations against me was actually the one abusing my children in horrific ways. Along with proving that the workers lied in documents meant for court, proved their falsified information to cover up their reasons for decisions, proved they did not do their due diligence, proved they did not investigate any abuse of my children by the monster abusing them and were clearly prejudice against me because of my mental illness. And yet even with proving all of that I and my children all will continue to suffer a life sentence. Why?
Where is our justice? For 7yrs I have had so many people turn on me, lost many friends, been looked down upon, seen as a liar, an abuser and addict all because of the lies of the actual abuser and of the department. I had to fight tooth and nail to prove that I was not any of those things. My life has gone through so much unnecessary heart ache and pain. Yet where is my crime?
In Canada if a PGO is granted against a parent and if they have no means or ability to appeal in 30 days then there is literally nothing they can do to get their children back if the social worker does not want to give them back. You can prove all that I did and there is nothing in the legislation requiring them to return your children. They are protected under the "Best Interest Of The Child". As after the PGO is granted their job then turns to adopting them out. It does not matter if workers admit they should have never pursued the PGO(as they did in my case). It does not matter if they admit in hindsight that they did wrong by the family and if they could go back they would never do it again(as they did in my case). It does not matter if you are cleared of ever abusing your children or of ever being an addict. It does not matter. Don't take my word for it. Go read the legislation of your province. There is 0 protection of the biological parent after a PGO is granted no matter what you can prove after. There are no checks and balances.
The legislation is designed to protect the workers ability to take children from families to provide a diverse selection of children to adopting homes and those homes will have all the protection that the government can provide. All the legal expertise, all the medical supports, all the financial supports if the biological parents try to fight the injustice that they end up proving.
Do I feel bad for the adopting parents in this case. A little. But not enough to say the child should remain with them. Why should a biological parent suffer a life sentence, and a child the same, when they have been proven innocent? They carried that baby for 9 months. Went through the hopes and dreams and planning of bringing this special little one into their life. They went through the physical and emotional pains for 9 months to bring them into this world. It is not right that a government can walk in and take a child on lies and sell them to someone else leaving the parents to continue to suffer. Laws and legislation needs to be changed to protect those families that prove their are innocent. It should be mandatory that if a family proves they are innocent and the wrong doing was on the workers part then the government should have to pay the costs for all the therapy and supports needed to reunify the family who has been through hell and back.
WHEN DID KIDNAPPING BECOME A LEGAL CRIME???!!!
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Parent's Cleared of Abuse Yet Denied Return Of Their Child
Society sadly has the misconception that if a social worker makes a mistake, if the parent can prove they are innocent, if they change their life around, that in the end they will get their children back. That is simply not the case. Social workers can ignore the rules of their job. They can make judgments solely based on how much they like someone with no evidence to back it up. Leaving parents desperate for help to save their family as their children are legally kidnapped from them. Knowing they are innocent yet having to suffer a life sentence of pain and suffering.
If someone is wrongly convicted of a crime they are granted their freedom along with an apology. If it is proven in court that people perjured themselves, lied on court documents, falsified records and so on then the judgment is thrown out against them. Their records cleared. So what happens to a family who loses their children because of lies, workers not doing their due diligence, prejudice and so on? They may be cleared as I have been but they will be required to forever suffer a life sentence because in the family courts the adopting families have more rights and more protections then the biological family.
I reside in Canada. When people think of Canada they usually think of a free country. Where people have rights and freedoms. Where families are protected and safe. Really? In my case the judge pointed out that even though I proved I was fit, able and willing, had been proven as such for a very long time, proved that I never abused my children, proved that I was never an addict, even proved that the one person making all the false allegations against me was actually the one abusing my children in horrific ways. Along with proving that the workers lied in documents meant for court, proved their falsified information to cover up their reasons for decisions, proved they did not do their due diligence, proved they did not investigate any abuse of my children by the monster abusing them and were clearly prejudice against me because of my mental illness. And yet even with proving all of that I and my children all will continue to suffer a life sentence. Why?
Where is our justice? For 7yrs I have had so many people turn on me, lost many friends, been looked down upon, seen as a liar, an abuser and addict all because of the lies of the actual abuser and of the department. I had to fight tooth and nail to prove that I was not any of those things. My life has gone through so much unnecessary heart ache and pain. Yet where is my crime?
In Canada if a PGO is granted against a parent and if they have no means or ability to appeal in 30 days then there is literally nothing they can do to get their children back if the social worker does not want to give them back. You can prove all that I did and there is nothing in the legislation requiring them to return your children. They are protected under the "Best Interest Of The Child". As after the PGO is granted their job then turns to adopting them out. It does not matter if workers admit they should have never pursued the PGO(as they did in my case). It does not matter if they admit in hindsight that they did wrong by the family and if they could go back they would never do it again(as they did in my case). It does not matter if you are cleared of ever abusing your children or of ever being an addict. It does not matter. Don't take my word for it. Go read the legislation of your province. There is 0 protection of the biological parent after a PGO is granted no matter what you can prove after. There are no checks and balances.
The legislation is designed to protect the workers ability to take children from families to provide a diverse selection of children to adopting homes and those homes will have all the protection that the government can provide. All the legal expertise, all the medical supports, all the financial supports if the biological parents try to fight the injustice that they end up proving.
Do I feel bad for the adopting parents in this case. A little. But not enough to say the child should remain with them. Why should a biological parent suffer a life sentence, and a child the same, when they have been proven innocent? They carried that baby for 9 months. Went through the hopes and dreams and planning of bringing this special little one into their life. They went through the physical and emotional pains for 9 months to bring them into this world. It is not right that a government can walk in and take a child on lies and sell them to someone else leaving the parents to continue to suffer. Laws and legislation needs to be changed to protect those families that prove their are innocent. It should be mandatory that if a family proves they are innocent and the wrong doing was on the workers part then the government should have to pay the costs for all the therapy and supports needed to reunify the family who has been through hell and back.
WHEN DID KIDNAPPING BECOME A LEGAL CRIME???!!!
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Monday, October 12, 2015
MY Oldest Sons 11th Birthday
Happy Birthday MY son. I so hope you have a wonderful day. This birthday is an amazing one because it falls in the same time as the year of your birth. You were born the day after Thanksgiving on a Monday. Just like today. Yesterday was Thanksgiving, the year you were born we spent Thanksgiving day at some of your extended families. I remember that day vividly. There were a lot of people there. Tons of really yummy food. But I could not eat. I was so tired. Not hungry at all and very uncomfortable. We stayed as long as we could and then I went home to rest. The next morning I went from uncomfortable to labor. And then 13hours later you were born. This absolutely perfect little baby boy. Who was so much like me in so many ways.
When your sister was born she was independent right from the start. She wanted to do everything herself, loved things a certain way, liked animals but could take them or leave them. Very much a girly girl where I was a tom boy. You on the other hand was my little cuddler. You were independent too but you preferred me to be close by so you could show me your accomplishments. You love to explore and you were fearless. You adored animals. Especially the dogs and especially Sheena. From the second you entered the house from the hospital you and Sheena were inseparable. I put your car seat on the floor and a little treat at the end of it near your feet. She came over and sniffed you and you grabbed her nose. She just licked your hand and laid down next to the carrier. I don't know how she knew but she knew you could not make any sounds from swallowing the birth fluid during birth. When you would sleep she would camp outside of your door and alert me as soon as you woke up since even the baby monitor could not pick up your sounds for the first month. She followed you around that house no matter where I would carry you too. If I was breast feeding you in your room she would sleep under the crib. If I was changing you she would sit next to the changing table. If you were in your playpen she would lay right next to it. If anyone was holding you she would sit right next to them. Many times she would put her head within reach of your hands for you to grab her fur or for her to sneak a kiss. As soon as you could sit up and roll yourself around your goal was always to make your way to Sheena. You loved the feel of her fur in your hands. She would bring you her toys and even her own for you to grab and feel.
Once you could crawl more adventure between the two of you started to happen. She would follow you where ever you would go. She would whine if she felt the freedom I gave you to explore or try things was too much in her mind. She was so protective of you. At this point you noticed her crate that we kept in the living room for her to have personal space. If Sheena was in there you would garb your blanket or a favorite toy and crawl over and climb in. You would all curl up together and take a nap. She would not move a muscle till you woke up other then to kiss a hand or your forehead. This was a multiple daily occurrence all the way up to the day you were removed. When you started to learn to stand and then walk you did it by first pulling yourself up along her side as she would slowly stand up next to you. Then you would hold her tail or the fur on her side or shoulder and she would slowly move forward. At this point the real adventure began.
You quickly discovered that anything you threw she would retrieve for you without a thought. You would throw toys or anything you could find over and over again and squeal with joy each and every time she brought it back to you. When I was teaching you to clean your room you learned quickly if you pointed at something she would get it for you making room cleaning fun. When you started to talk you called her Eena. When you could say words like Tay(stay), it(sit) I started to teach you basic commands. It was so fun to see you light up with joy as you would give her commands at 20 months old and this huge dog would listen. You started feeding her yourself, with adult supervision of course. You would tell her to It and Tay and she would sit and stay. Then you would help me fill the dishes. Then you would stand in front of her and swing your arm down as you tried to say OK releasing her to eat.
At two you were learning to walk her around the yard on leash and she would walk perfectly next to your side. You would always get so happy as strangers walked by commenting on what a great little dog trainer you were. You would stop and she would sit and nuzzle your hand for attention. You wanted to learn so much about dog training and I was happy to show you. My passion has always been training dogs. I have been doing it since I was younger then 8yrs. Isabeau was a story teller right from the time she could talk and then write. I knew she would be a writer. You had my passion and adoration for dogs right from birth. Just like me. I knew you were going to work with them or animals. You had the quiet personality to help animals feel calm and trust you. You had the patience needed to give the dog a chance to figure out what to do even at 2 all the way up to 6yrs and from testimony on the stand even now. You were never mean or cruel.
Sheena was your first dog. Even when you were removed and we had visits Sheena was one of the first things you asked about on the phone. You always begged me to bring her to pick you up or drop you off. You would beg to let her come back to your grandparents with you. I knew it was so you would feel safe and protected. You knew they could not hurt you if Sheena was there. During visits she was the first one you hugged when you ran to the door and she always whined and cried as soon as she saw you. Her whole body shivering with excitement. You were her little boy. When you hear the term "A Boy and His Dog." you and Sheena were the perfect example of that. She was 10 months older then you when you were born. We can still to this day ask her "Where is Dedders?(your nick name) and she will search the house and look outside whining for you.
When she had puppies she let you around them within days. She trusted you completely. Every morning you would wake up and run to her whelping box to check on the pups. You loved to sit on the floor and play with them no matter where they were. Sheena would lay near you or on a piece of furniture watching you and the puppies totally relaxed. You never hurt them. You were never rough. You would giggle most of the day with them.
She is 11 now. She will be turning 12 this December. With this trial over we know there is no chance for you to ever say good-bye to your dog. No one has taken any of that into consideration. And I know you are holding your memories of her, your sister and me close to your heart where no one can hurt them or take them. I know like your sister did at that same age that you are telling people what they want to hear instead of what you truly feel. Because every time you begged for me, every time you begged for your sister and every time you begged for your dog they were all ripped from you. You learned to not let those feelings known so as to not lose anyone else. Your sister did the same and it is actually quite normal after all that has been done to you. All you heard was lies when you would ask about any of us and then lose us. I know our memories are still in your head though. As testified at the trial you are still asking to come home to us. No matter what people want to assume you remember about us(or are hoping you are) we all know it is not the case at all. We understand. We love you no matter what and we know some day when you can, like you sister did, you will seek us out.
At the trial your worker testified that the couple you are with does not like me posting your birthday posts, or any posts to you or your brother. They tried to make it out to be something sick, something wrong. They want me to see a piece of paper as their ownership of you. But I know they can't own your heart and what makes you you. I will never recognize a piece of paper as me no longer being your mom. I don't care if you find me now or 20yrs from now. I will always be your mom. Your first and only mom. I have been cleared of ever abusing you. Cleared. Which means I never did. People lied about that and continue to lie to you about that. I have also been deemed fit and proved I have been fit all along. So when you have been told over and over again that I could not care for you or your brother someday you will learn it was all lies so they could legally kidnap you and give you to someone else. Adoption is not suppose to be stealing children from loving parents who never hurt their children and could care for their children. Which is what was done to you and your brother.
Know when you read this that you are loved by me and our entire family. You and your brother always are talked about, always are made a part of special occasions and your special days are always celebrated. We will never stop posting on your special days. Never. Or any other time we feel the need to put our thoughts down in writing about you two so we never forget and so you can read it later. Your sister said reading her birthday entries and all the posts about how we never stopped fighting for all of you really helped her to see how much she is loved and to rebuild her confidence in herself. I hope the same will be for you and your brother.
No matter where you are sweetheart know you are my son. Know you are my heart. I wish I could give you the opportunity to say goodbye to Sheena before she passes. I don't know how many years she has left. Every puppy from the litter she was born in has passed. The last one over a year ago. But I also know after testimony of how the couple you are with perceives me and your sister from lies, that you will never be allowed willingly to contact us. They lied to your sisters face and continue to lie to yours and your brothers. But those lies won't hold for long and I am patient. I had to fight for 7yrs to clear my name. And I have no problem waiting for you and your brother to find me and learn the truth. The truth has a way of always coming to light.
Your home is here and we are waiting for you and loving you. Have a great b-day son. You are loved beyond words.
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When your sister was born she was independent right from the start. She wanted to do everything herself, loved things a certain way, liked animals but could take them or leave them. Very much a girly girl where I was a tom boy. You on the other hand was my little cuddler. You were independent too but you preferred me to be close by so you could show me your accomplishments. You love to explore and you were fearless. You adored animals. Especially the dogs and especially Sheena. From the second you entered the house from the hospital you and Sheena were inseparable. I put your car seat on the floor and a little treat at the end of it near your feet. She came over and sniffed you and you grabbed her nose. She just licked your hand and laid down next to the carrier. I don't know how she knew but she knew you could not make any sounds from swallowing the birth fluid during birth. When you would sleep she would camp outside of your door and alert me as soon as you woke up since even the baby monitor could not pick up your sounds for the first month. She followed you around that house no matter where I would carry you too. If I was breast feeding you in your room she would sleep under the crib. If I was changing you she would sit next to the changing table. If you were in your playpen she would lay right next to it. If anyone was holding you she would sit right next to them. Many times she would put her head within reach of your hands for you to grab her fur or for her to sneak a kiss. As soon as you could sit up and roll yourself around your goal was always to make your way to Sheena. You loved the feel of her fur in your hands. She would bring you her toys and even her own for you to grab and feel.
Once you could crawl more adventure between the two of you started to happen. She would follow you where ever you would go. She would whine if she felt the freedom I gave you to explore or try things was too much in her mind. She was so protective of you. At this point you noticed her crate that we kept in the living room for her to have personal space. If Sheena was in there you would garb your blanket or a favorite toy and crawl over and climb in. You would all curl up together and take a nap. She would not move a muscle till you woke up other then to kiss a hand or your forehead. This was a multiple daily occurrence all the way up to the day you were removed. When you started to learn to stand and then walk you did it by first pulling yourself up along her side as she would slowly stand up next to you. Then you would hold her tail or the fur on her side or shoulder and she would slowly move forward. At this point the real adventure began.
You quickly discovered that anything you threw she would retrieve for you without a thought. You would throw toys or anything you could find over and over again and squeal with joy each and every time she brought it back to you. When I was teaching you to clean your room you learned quickly if you pointed at something she would get it for you making room cleaning fun. When you started to talk you called her Eena. When you could say words like Tay(stay), it(sit) I started to teach you basic commands. It was so fun to see you light up with joy as you would give her commands at 20 months old and this huge dog would listen. You started feeding her yourself, with adult supervision of course. You would tell her to It and Tay and she would sit and stay. Then you would help me fill the dishes. Then you would stand in front of her and swing your arm down as you tried to say OK releasing her to eat.
At two you were learning to walk her around the yard on leash and she would walk perfectly next to your side. You would always get so happy as strangers walked by commenting on what a great little dog trainer you were. You would stop and she would sit and nuzzle your hand for attention. You wanted to learn so much about dog training and I was happy to show you. My passion has always been training dogs. I have been doing it since I was younger then 8yrs. Isabeau was a story teller right from the time she could talk and then write. I knew she would be a writer. You had my passion and adoration for dogs right from birth. Just like me. I knew you were going to work with them or animals. You had the quiet personality to help animals feel calm and trust you. You had the patience needed to give the dog a chance to figure out what to do even at 2 all the way up to 6yrs and from testimony on the stand even now. You were never mean or cruel.
Sheena was your first dog. Even when you were removed and we had visits Sheena was one of the first things you asked about on the phone. You always begged me to bring her to pick you up or drop you off. You would beg to let her come back to your grandparents with you. I knew it was so you would feel safe and protected. You knew they could not hurt you if Sheena was there. During visits she was the first one you hugged when you ran to the door and she always whined and cried as soon as she saw you. Her whole body shivering with excitement. You were her little boy. When you hear the term "A Boy and His Dog." you and Sheena were the perfect example of that. She was 10 months older then you when you were born. We can still to this day ask her "Where is Dedders?(your nick name) and she will search the house and look outside whining for you.
When she had puppies she let you around them within days. She trusted you completely. Every morning you would wake up and run to her whelping box to check on the pups. You loved to sit on the floor and play with them no matter where they were. Sheena would lay near you or on a piece of furniture watching you and the puppies totally relaxed. You never hurt them. You were never rough. You would giggle most of the day with them.
She is 11 now. She will be turning 12 this December. With this trial over we know there is no chance for you to ever say good-bye to your dog. No one has taken any of that into consideration. And I know you are holding your memories of her, your sister and me close to your heart where no one can hurt them or take them. I know like your sister did at that same age that you are telling people what they want to hear instead of what you truly feel. Because every time you begged for me, every time you begged for your sister and every time you begged for your dog they were all ripped from you. You learned to not let those feelings known so as to not lose anyone else. Your sister did the same and it is actually quite normal after all that has been done to you. All you heard was lies when you would ask about any of us and then lose us. I know our memories are still in your head though. As testified at the trial you are still asking to come home to us. No matter what people want to assume you remember about us(or are hoping you are) we all know it is not the case at all. We understand. We love you no matter what and we know some day when you can, like you sister did, you will seek us out.
At the trial your worker testified that the couple you are with does not like me posting your birthday posts, or any posts to you or your brother. They tried to make it out to be something sick, something wrong. They want me to see a piece of paper as their ownership of you. But I know they can't own your heart and what makes you you. I will never recognize a piece of paper as me no longer being your mom. I don't care if you find me now or 20yrs from now. I will always be your mom. Your first and only mom. I have been cleared of ever abusing you. Cleared. Which means I never did. People lied about that and continue to lie to you about that. I have also been deemed fit and proved I have been fit all along. So when you have been told over and over again that I could not care for you or your brother someday you will learn it was all lies so they could legally kidnap you and give you to someone else. Adoption is not suppose to be stealing children from loving parents who never hurt their children and could care for their children. Which is what was done to you and your brother.
Know when you read this that you are loved by me and our entire family. You and your brother always are talked about, always are made a part of special occasions and your special days are always celebrated. We will never stop posting on your special days. Never. Or any other time we feel the need to put our thoughts down in writing about you two so we never forget and so you can read it later. Your sister said reading her birthday entries and all the posts about how we never stopped fighting for all of you really helped her to see how much she is loved and to rebuild her confidence in herself. I hope the same will be for you and your brother.
No matter where you are sweetheart know you are my son. Know you are my heart. I wish I could give you the opportunity to say goodbye to Sheena before she passes. I don't know how many years she has left. Every puppy from the litter she was born in has passed. The last one over a year ago. But I also know after testimony of how the couple you are with perceives me and your sister from lies, that you will never be allowed willingly to contact us. They lied to your sisters face and continue to lie to yours and your brothers. But those lies won't hold for long and I am patient. I had to fight for 7yrs to clear my name. And I have no problem waiting for you and your brother to find me and learn the truth. The truth has a way of always coming to light.
Your home is here and we are waiting for you and loving you. Have a great b-day son. You are loved beyond words.
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Saturday, October 10, 2015
Final Statement I Gave From The PGO Review Trial
Now that things have settled down from the trial I think it is time to share my final statement I gave for trial. It is long and it is vetted. So a bit might be confusing. But I think it is very important for you all to read to help put all the final pieces together. This can be read in the transcripts of the trial as well if anyone chooses to access those.
So here we go:
"As everyone knows I used the new legislation that came into effect January of 2014. Since it came out only one other case to my knowledge went to trial. That case was so different from my own that even I agree that the judge made the right decision to not send the child back home. The mother had not had any contact for several years with 0 attempt at contact and 0 attempt to show she was fit. Yet I have shown my repeated requests over many years and many workers to be re-evaluated and contact be re-instated between myself, my daughter and her brothers. She had known drug and alcohol problems, I do not and never have been an addict. She was homeless where as I have had a steady home with enough rooms for all my children for at least 2yrs prior to the PGO being granted. She had no siblings in her care that her child had grown up with and that had had regular contact. I do. She made no attempt to bring in any community supports to show that she was fit, I have and have had those supports in place for well over 3yrs. She never made her home accessible to mandated reporters to be able to prove her home clean, the environment safe. I have gone above and beyond to do such. She did not have another child born into her care to prove her fitness when no other avenue to prove her fitness was available. I did. I didn’t just prove my fitness with my youngest, I was able to prove my fitness so well that my daughter, who had had no contact with me for over 3yrs prior is now back in my home and the PGO rescinded. And I again proved my fitness so well that a 26yr veteran in the children services work has (vetted as it talks about our current special journey that I prefer to keep private)
The next witness was one of our friends. He attested to us not ever giving up in the entire time he has known us in our fight to bring my sons home. He also attested to how involved we are in our community. How we helped 20 families last year for thanksgiving with hampers of food. How at Christmas I organized several people in making food and gift hampers for 50 families. This is with PTSD and Agoraphobia. And how I encourage my daughter to be a part of it.
Next was my sons assessor. He spoke of the attachment that is there an developing. He spoke of how important that is and his concerns if that is suddenly cut. Yet he also stated it is like a crystal ball in predicting what could happened. He could not guarantee that with a slow transition, proper therapy and community supports that my children would suffer irreparable harm. He also stated RAD can be over come. He also stated that he found it very concerning how much information was completely omitted, changed or so on. Very concerning he stated as I listed off the biggest issues that had gotten on the record. He also stated no one mention my sons desire to move home and that he could not answer the question of the attachment of my sons to me as he has never met me or observed us together. But he also stated clearly that attachment is just one piece of the puzzle that the judge has to look at in determining this whole situation. Just one piece.
A Mr. S knew of those errors. His subordinates involved in drafting of the report to the court also knew of some of them and ought to have know of the others. They failed to ensure the truth of the information provided to the provincial court. (Have I not also show this same thing over and over again, even in reports sent to the people making assessments about me and my children).
So here we go:
"As everyone knows I used the new legislation that came into effect January of 2014. Since it came out only one other case to my knowledge went to trial. That case was so different from my own that even I agree that the judge made the right decision to not send the child back home. The mother had not had any contact for several years with 0 attempt at contact and 0 attempt to show she was fit. Yet I have shown my repeated requests over many years and many workers to be re-evaluated and contact be re-instated between myself, my daughter and her brothers. She had known drug and alcohol problems, I do not and never have been an addict. She was homeless where as I have had a steady home with enough rooms for all my children for at least 2yrs prior to the PGO being granted. She had no siblings in her care that her child had grown up with and that had had regular contact. I do. She made no attempt to bring in any community supports to show that she was fit, I have and have had those supports in place for well over 3yrs. She never made her home accessible to mandated reporters to be able to prove her home clean, the environment safe. I have gone above and beyond to do such. She did not have another child born into her care to prove her fitness when no other avenue to prove her fitness was available. I did. I didn’t just prove my fitness with my youngest, I was able to prove my fitness so well that my daughter, who had had no contact with me for over 3yrs prior is now back in my home and the PGO rescinded. And I again proved my fitness so well that a 26yr veteran in the children services work has (vetted as it talks about our current special journey that I prefer to keep private)
She could not prove point A - Which is her willingness, fitness and ability. With the countless professionals, who all are either funded by Child and Family Services, contracted with them or work for them directly, I think I have shown beyond a reasonable doubt that I am fit and have been for a good long while, since prior to my children being matched with their currant home and prior to the PGO being granted. The department and the children’s lawyer has already conceded my willingness but the social workers involved in my sons trial also have clearly shown that I requested for years, with multiple workers to please re-evaluate me and allow contact between my children to be reinstated. As well I have show through all the professionals we have worked with for the past 3+ years that we are fit, our home is suitable, our home is safe. Their own parental assessor that they hired to assess me passed me on every level other then the attachment. I can not think of any parent who has done more then I to prove point A for a long period of time.
The second part was what is in the best interest of the child. Since she could not in any way prove point A, point B became invalid. It is pointless to go further if point A can’t be established. So lets look at point B. What is in the best interest of my sons. With all the people who have testified, starting with my childrens original social worker, the main social worker for my children, all my children at that time. He clearly stated on the stand that what they thought was happening in that home and what was actually happening in that home were two drastically different things. For years my daughter was blamed for the problems in that home. I, countless times and the records show this, begged the department to investigate what was happening but because of my mental illness they would not even consider that I was reporting the truth. All they saw was what that couple told them to see. That I was mentally ill to the point of not being able to parent, that I was an addict(yet no history anywhere of addiction), that I was making false complaints. Time and again my visits were cut with no notice or warning or reason yet I would be blamed. As was easily shown with my last visit occurring on Oct 29, 2010 and the court date being Nov 4, 2010. Till then I had weekly unsupervised visits in our home. Their rooms were already set up months prior when we first moved there. Why would they suddenly say that visits were cut because of décor? It does not make any sense at all. Even the social worker we work with here testified to even be considered for overnights that a bed and space for the child to call there own is required. So why would social workers here say it was deemed appropriate with no concerns but my sons social workers are stating, with no evidence to back it up, that the visits were cut and unsupervised was removed because of decorating my sons own space in our home? Why is one ok and the other seen as a just cause to remove a mothers access?
Along with that was the fact that I, a sufferer of PTSD from the extreme abuse I was raised in, by the same woman caring for my sons, would be required to be around my abuser. A huge trigger that even my daughters worker testified was toxic for me. Why would Children and Family Services, with no safety concerns noted, no court order from a judge stating to do so not only remove unsupervised access to my children but reduce it and require me to be around my abuser when they knew I suffered from PTSD because of what she did to me? Why was the only choice I was given had to be risking my mental health(which would have destroyed my ability to be fit, willing and able) or my children? Is that justice to make a mother choose between one or the other when both would lead to her losing her children? What choice is that? You heard from 3 social workers, My childrens first worker, my childrens second worker and my sons current worker. All stated that they would never consider me for re-evaluation. My question is why? Why was my standard of proof to prove I was fit out of reach? Is that what this act is all about?
I read that if the child had not been adopted yet that this legislation can be used as it is to help give every opportunity for the biological parent and child to keep that family unit. It doesn’t say if a match is made then this can’t be used. It doesn’t say if they have been placed in a home it can’t be used. It clearly states if no adoption has occurred yet. Even with my daughters last worker clearly stating in her emails to my sons current worker that she was going to try and delay me we still filed before the adoption paperwork was filed. Even with both my daughters worker and my sons worker knowing that the act was coming into effect and even discussing the possibility of me applying for it if I learned about it, I still got it in before it was final. It took an ethical social worker, who had no part in this issue to tell us our rights. Why is that? Why was the workers, many workers, who were supposed to be looking out for the best interest of my children not stepping forward with this info? Why did they think it was still in the best interest of my family, all three siblings to add more attachment breaks deemed better? That does not show me that my childrens best interest was being met. That shows me that they were doing everything they can to ensure an adoption took place and they didn’t care how many attachments they broke to do it. They didn’t care about what was in my daughters best interest when they cut contact between her and her brothers. Who stands up for her? Not her social worker. Her social worker couldn’t even tell her that she was the one that made the decision to cut contact based on a what if. Yet workers then decided it is ok to falsify records and state that it was because she was coaching her brothers. Yet it is clearly shown that the decision was made because of a what if and not because of something actually happening. How is that in my daughters or her brothers best interest? How am I to tell her to trust in Children and Family Services or the courts if these glaring issues continue to be ignored and she is made to continue in her pain in missing her brothers with having done nothing wrong?
What is even worse is how is a worker suppose to determine what is in the best interest of the child when they don’t even go through the file, not even when evidence is brought to their attention that things were not done properly. My childrens first worker admitted that within a few short months of my contact with my children being cut, and my mother being consider as a permanent placement, which is why they lied so much about me, that she then stopped working with the social workers, youth mentors and other community supports. Then he testified to what was clearly happening in that home. Not punitive punishments as so many court reports, assessments and so on state. ABUSE. There is a huge difference. A child does not walk away from a home at 3yrs old covered in multiple fading bruises from punitive punishments. That is abuse. A 3yr old child does not walk away from a home with deep tissue truama that is still very much there and not healed a full year later from punitive punishments. That is abuse. They were possible cigarette burns. THAT IS ABUSE. Making a 12yr old wear diapers to school is not punitive punishments. That is abuse. Making a child sit on a floor unless they are doing chores, eat from the floor while the family eats together, not allowed to be alone in the bathroom or shower alone over weeks at a time is not punitive punishments. THAT IS ABUSE. Why are these workers minimizing what was done to my children? What are they trying to hide? The truth? That they greatly misjudged me and what was truly happening all because I had a mental illness and had been the victim of domestic violence? If I did not seek so diligently to get help and to learn I could understand but they knew I had worked hard to show that I was fit, able and willing yet ignored it and worked hard to keep my children with their abuser. How is that justice for my family and how is that in the best interest of my 3 children at the time?
Yet upon removal of my children from my mothers home for exactly what I had been stating for years was happening did the worker call me? It was only 6 months after the PGO was granted. No permancy plan was in place at the time. So why was my sister considered but 0 attempt to re-evaluate me was offered? Why was the abusive grandparent allowed and considered for accuses, with clear evidence to all the abuse, yet I was not? I had not moved. We had choosen to stay in our home, as I testified, so that if we could some how prove we were fit that my sons would come home to a place that was familiar. So the department knew how to contact me. My number had not changed and they had my email. So why no contact to me? How is that working towards trying to keep a family together? In the Child Youth and Family Enhancement Act it clearly states that all attempts should be made to try and keep the contact between the child and the domestic violence victim parent together. Other then being prejudged based on my mothers lies and my mental illness no attempt was made prior or after the PGO to keep my children or my family together. This sickens me. Mentally ill does not mean unfit. Being blind does not mean you are unfit. Being in a wheel chair does not mean you are unfit. So why is it ok to prejudge someone based on a mental illness and require them to have to go above and beyond to prove they are fit?
Moving forward in comes my childrens second social worker. My childrens next worker. She attested on the stand to not looking through the files at all other then to look for diagnoses. So why was she the one that wrote the adoption history for my children when she clearly stated she never even reviewed their file? Does that make any sense to anyone because it did not make any sense to me. Then she testifies on the stand that she was aware of the doctors report following the removal of my children from my mother. In fact the second one in May of 2012 she had requested the doctor to fill out. So why in the history of the adopted child does she clearly state that both the 2011 report and the 2012 report from the doctor had no concerns listed? How can she say and records show that she was aware of both reports BUT then go on to state that no concerns were noted. Yet the reports clearly list the major medical concerns and condition of my son upon removal from my mother and even a year later. If that is not clearly showing falsifying facts, facts that are being presented in provincial court as accurate and factual, then it shows a blatant disregard for making sure that the evidence in the files matches for court of law. Is it not concerning to anyone that so many documents show multiple issues with facts either altered, omitted or made completely up? Is that not some how a crime? especially since Child and Family Services are suppose to deal with facts and present facts to a court so the court can determine the fate of a child and family. If so many large glaring discrepancies were presented in a criminal case would it be ignored? I would hope not.
She also went on to state that it was not her job to get my sons therapy. Or my daughter for that matter. She was their case worker. She was suppose to decided what was in my childrens best interest. My sons were showing huge trauma based issues the entire time in foster care. I don’t have professional training for working with children and when I read the foster parents notes I could clearly see that they needed intense therapy. How was that in my children’s best interest to not receive any therapy? She then went on to testify that she had no obligation to re-evaluate me for my sons. None. She was an adoption worker and her job based on what she stated was to adopt my children out. So if that is the case then what is the point of this new legislation? Why does it not then state if the file is moved to a permanency worker then all consideration for re-evaluation is ended? Because it is meant to give the biological parents every opportunity to get their children back because the importance of the family unit is suppose to be paramount if there is no safety concerns. She also continued to state that I did contact her as soon as my daughter had contacted us. One month after a match was made yet no meeting with my sons and the couple they were with was set up yet. Where was her obligation to consider all placements that would allow the children, 3 children not two, to stay together? Is there none? How is that in the best interest of the child? At that time I already had my third son, home was approved fit, had a community support worker in my home and Children and Family Services in my community showing no concerns. If she had re-evaluated me at that stage would we even be here today?
She goes on to state that yes she and the couple did state to my daughter face to face, My daughter was 14 at the time, that contact would never be cut. NEVER. And that is why she stated she choose the family. Because they had stated they would never cut contact. What did that do to my daughter? What did that promise say to my sons? Everyone is talking about the importance of attachments and the damage that can be caused if those attachments are broken. Yet no one stated that when I was given no options and contact was cut. Even though my oldest son had begged me prior to the PGO to never stop trying to bring him home. No one stated any of this when they decided to cut contact between my children. Why is it only now considered important? Why is the importance of attachment ONLY important when it means moving the child out of a possible adoptive home but not considered when cutting out mothers when there are no safety concerns or a sister from her brothers based on a what if? Is that looking out for the childs best interest? Or is that looking out for only the adopting homes best interest?
She then continues to state that I got my first visit in April with my daughter. Does anyone find it interesting that witnin 2 visits with my daughter and myself that my daughter was not being allowed to contact her brothers? Is this only a coincidence? Yet she at no point in her testimony admitted any knowledge of contact being cut or there being any concerns of my daughter supposedly coaching my sons. So many things already about the files and the case are just not matching up and I know I can’t be the only one seeing it. From there she states that visits with my daughter continued into the summer where my sons file moved to the city the adopting family is in and my daughters file to her final worker.
When my daughters last worker got on the stand she testified that she and her supervisor went through the entire file and in doing so decided to continue the reunification of my daughter and myself with the plan of my daughter moving home and the possibility of the PGO being rescinded. She also went on to state that she never saw any concerns that would have stopped her from continuing on this journey. She then states that it was a joint decision in December/January of 2013/2014 between herself and my sons current worker to cut contact because of my daughter giving negative messages to her brothers. Ok so now I am confused again. Many reports clearly show that contact was cut in spring/summer of 2013. Then a report written by my sons current worker of a phone call that my daughters last worker and she had on Dec 20, 2013 shows my daughters last worker clearly stating that she was the sole person to choose to cut the contact because she thought I was coaching my daughter and that the possibility that my daughter might in turn coach the boys might happen. First why is it when ever I have disclosed something or a concern to a social worker is it then automatically seen as coaching? Why when I disclose what my daughter tells me happened to her and I in turn tell the social worker is that not taken seriously and checked into? Why if my mother stated it was it deemed automatically true or if a foster home stated it it would be deemed true or if a social worker stated it then it is true but because I stated it then it must be coaching? That confuses me. Anyway she then goes on to state that the second reason she made the decision was because she thought the foster home my daughter was in was being too open with me. Ok so which is it? Did my daughter do it or not? If it is in a court document should it not be checked to be factual first? Why would workers feel the need to make up reasons as to why sibling access was cut? Yet she denies any knowledge of the phone call on that date. How can that be?
In that same report it comes out that she stated that at first they were blaming me for the abuse my children were enduring but that they are no longer doing that. So a worker who went through the entire file, the first to do so, is stating that I am no longer being looked at as the abuser of my children. Is this not huge? Should I not have been re-evaluated as soon as they changed their minds on that? She also says she had a discussion with my childrens first worker about the PGO. Stating that he, previous worker is now saying he thinks they did wrong by this family by seeking a PGO. Again if this was the case why did no one contact him to confirm? If this is the case why was I not being re-evaluated? If mistakes are made ok, people are human, but it is not ok if no one does anything to repair those mistakes and allows a family and multiple children to continue to suffer the loss of each other. At the end of the report she finishes it with “the assessor who was initially involved with this family and then apprehension, reportedly is now stating they made the wrong decision and if they could go back they wouldn’t make the same decision to permanently remove the kids.” AGAIN WHY DID NO ONE CONTACT THE SUPERVISOR WHO OVER SAW THE REMOVAL AND PGO OF MY CHILDREN TO CONFIRM THIS? Should that not be deemed important if the main workers involved in getting the PGO now in hindsight, and the abuse that was really occurring in my mothers home, has made them realize a huge mistake was made. Is there no obligation for the department if they make such huge mistakes to do all they can to repair it and re-evaluate the children and the parents home? What does ignoring these concerns tell families and the public about how Children and Family Services works to keep families together?
She then continues testify that no concerns arose, that I did contact her in May of 2014 for the forms for the new legislation yet no mention at all that she contacted my sons current worker to let her know right after what I was doing. No mention of her statements to attempt to delay me. Is that what a caseworker is suppose to do to show the best interest of a child? Try and delay a parent who is fit and who has been begging worker after worker to re-evaluate her and reunit her family? Is that what the Child, Youth and Family Enhancement Act states for them to do? Yet she stated there is no obligation for her to inform me of the new legislation. Which I found confusing as well since the Worker here who is a 26yr vetran who we are working with currently had stated in his testimony that he was told it is their obligation to inform birth parents to give them the opportunity to try and keep their family together. So which one is right? Even if there is no law, I then put the question to the court which one is ethical? Why was so much effort and help given to my mother and the adopting family to keep my children with them but little to none offered to me and my children to help us stay together?
She then continue to testify that my daughter did move home in June of 2014 and the PGO was rescinded in Dec of 2014 and that it was agreed to be rescinded as no concerns were noted. During this entire time up to June of 2014, so 3 yrs from removal from my mothers home, through countless social workers, my sons did not get any counseling for the trauma and abuse that they had endured. 18 months of which was with this couple. How is that in the best interest of my sons? Why did it take so long? Each child expert did agree that making a child wait for therapy for 3+ years was concerning and they should have been in child lead play therapy from the beginning as the longer it takes for it to start the higher the risk of long term issues. During those 3+ who was looking out for any of my childrens best interests? No therapy, contact cut from a healthy and fit parent with no safety concerns to do so, forced to continue to reside in a home that was abusing them for at least another 6 months following the PGO, contact then cut with a sibling and no explanation to any child of what they did wrong or why contact was cut, no chance even offered to say good-bye. At the time of initial disclosure it was June 26, 2014. My childrens best interest were not being met at that time. And had not been met since they started being abused in my mothers home and no worker would even consider investigating any concerns I brought to their attention about it. And now from June 2014- Sept 2015 I am just suppose to trust that what I am being told is true? And now I am suppose to trust that my sons are getting they needs met when it comes to therapy and so on? The need of contact with their sibling is still not being corrected and no explanation or so on given to any of the children. They are just suppose to continue to accept this loss of each other. Could you remove one of your children from the other siblings, give no explanation and expect them to forget that other sibling even existed? Could you do it based on a what if? Is that attachment not important as well? Why is the only attachment deemed important the one from my sons to the couple? Why is that the only consideration the case workers have taken? These are not puppies from a litter to give away. These are children. A sibling group of 3. Continuing the separation of all 3 is not in the best interest of any child.
Lets move on to my next witness. My first community support worker. She testified that when I got in contact and applied to them the reasons I did so included my worry about my baby taken upon birth because of the previous PGO on my other 3. Should a mother be scared of Child and Family Services? Should they not see them as a support instead of something to be scared of? But she also testified that we wanted a mandated reporter in the home to prove we were fit to be able to get my sons home. Further showing that Having our youngest was because we wanted to prove our fitness. At the time of signing up with them I had no idea my children were not in my mothers care. I had no idea they were in foster care, no permancy plan in place though. Yet I was diligently working on my end to prove my fitness in a way that would not risk my mental health. She also went on to testify to how I was to really work with, how my home really was, what my parenting knowledge really was as she stated I even helped change the baby curriculum for their program with the information I brought to them and that I continue throughout the time we worked together to provide them with parenting stratagies that they even asked me for to pass on to other families they worked with. She also testified to our willingness to do anything she suggested or ask even if we were terrified of the possible outcome of losing my new son by going to the Children and Family Services in our community to let them know about the pregnancy. She also attested to why we waited to contact my childrens worker about re-evaluation till after my youngest had his first 2 week check up at the Children’s hospital for his cleft. She attested to how and when I found out about the removal of my children from my mothers home and how it was through a concern community member, not a worker from Children and Family Services. Why did it take almost a year and a half and a concerned community member to come and tell me. How is that looking out for my children’s best interest? Especially when my home was big enough and safe enough for all 3 of my children? Why was it preferred to split them up? She continued to testify to all the discussions we had weekly about my sons and what the community offered for supports for their needs and that these were ongoing discussions for the entire 2yrs she was our worker. She testified to the knowledge of all the social workers I have repeatedly contacted begging to be re-evaluated. And that at no time in the entire two years we worked with her did she ever feel there was a concern about our home or our parenting. She attested to the meeting with the Children and Family Services worker we are working with here and my very physical reaction to finding out the news of new legislation. Along with testifying to how quickly I filed. How many parents with no legal help work so diligently and for so long to prove their fitness, to fight to keep a promise to their children(My oldest son and my daughter both asked me to not stop, my daughter after getting back in contact with me). I was told by so many to just give up. But is that the message that Children and Family Services wants to send to parents? To just give up after a PGO is granted? If that is the case why the new legislation?
Then next comes my daughter. She was a victim and survivor of the abuse of my mother over a long period of time. But did she appear to be a child with no self confidence? When she came to our home, after being in the foster placement for 4yrs(2 1/2yrs of which there was no contact with me) she had no self confidence, as she testified. She was scared of going to school. Scared to leave the house. Scared to get involved. Now? A year after being returned home did she appear to be any of those things? I don’t think so. My daughter is a fashion leader in her school now, she has several friends, loves her part time job, loves going to school and wants to be a writter and help other children who have been abused to find their voice. This is a child who had no contact with me for several years. A child that had been in a long term placement and had had emotional issues and other problems while in that home. Yet upon coming home in a slow transition, with the right supports in place she has totally changed and is a confident young lady who has realistic goals for her future. Does that not indicate that children can successfully transition home, after a long term placement and no contact? She also testified to missing her brothers. She is part of this whole equation whether the department wants to recognize it or not. Her feelings and needs are equally as important as my sons. And she needs her brothers in her life. She was so concerned about losing them from her life that she asked her second social worker to promise her and the couple who has my sons to promise her contact would not be cut but that is exactly what was done within months of placement. Why was her best interests not being considered? Why is the attachment of these siblings not seen as important in any way?
Next came my current community support worker also testifying to how she has observed us parenting, how ready our home is, our consistent conversations about how to best help my sons upon them returning home. She also attested to(Vetted out as it speaks to our current journey) She also attested to how we are always asking for advice from those we work with to continue to learn. And she attested to how we really are to work with.
The next day was the two people who have supervised our parenting all summer, who Children and Family Services here contracts to supervise families and report and concerns. who both attested to observing us all summer long and that no concerns ever arose. (Vetted our as it speaks to our current journey) My sons current worker has never been in our home yet the Children and Family Services worker here who we are working with testified that he knows he is welcome in our home any time and has been here multiple times and witnessed us parenting with no concerns. So I will quote from another judge. You can’t have it both ways. Either she is fit, able and willing or she isn’t. Children Services here says we are. So why have so many others not considered us at all for re-evaluation?
The next witness was one of our friends. He attested to us not ever giving up in the entire time he has known us in our fight to bring my sons home. He also attested to how involved we are in our community. How we helped 20 families last year for thanksgiving with hampers of food. How at Christmas I organized several people in making food and gift hampers for 50 families. This is with PTSD and Agoraphobia. And how I encourage my daughter to be a part of it.
Then came the Children and Family Services worker who we are working with here. A 26yr vetran of working in the Children’s Services area. He testified to no concerns of our home and parenting, how we really are to work with, how open we are, how we are always asking questions and always asking how to do things better. He testified to what he was told about the obligation to tell parents about the childrens first act. He also testified that it was part of his job as a permany worker to go through the file to find out what was in the best interest of the child. He testified to getting our criminal records checks and that both of us were clear for the vunerable sectors search. He testified how he saw how things were going and also that for children to have over night visits that providing a bed and personal space is one of the required needs.
Next was the first witness for the department. The lady who did our parental assessment. In the paperwork she passed me in every area for having the ability to parent. Except for the attachment part. Her job was to evaluate me for my abilities to parent and not on the attachment of my sons to me or me to my sons. Yet in her testimony it came across to me that all she wanted to do was focus on the attachment. If the attachment part is the the only issue to consider in all of this then why does it not say in the Childrens First Act that part B is only to focus on the attachment of the child to the current caregivers? It doesn’t. It says to look at the best interest of the child and attachment is only one part of that equation as testified by my sons assessor and my sons current therapist this week. It is important but it is not the only point to consider in the over all best interest of the child. Regardless though the parenting assessment shows I can parent. I met all the criteria to be able to parent, my home is big enough, we can financially do it, their medical needs would be met, we have the community supports in place and ready.
Then it was me. I am not going to go over all that I testified too as I think it was covered quite well by all my previous witnesses and myself. But after all I did, all the proffessionals I brought in have I not met point A? Have I not shown that I have been preparing from prior to the PGO being granted to also meet the best interests of my sons upon the possibility of them moving home? If your children were kept from you and a PGO was granted on what you knew was misinformation and false facts would you just give up on your three children your honor? Or if you only had my education and funds would you continue to find a way, that would not risk your mental health, to bring them home? To keep that promise to your then 6yr old son and your now 16yr old daughter? Is there a time limit on how long you would fight to repair your family? Especially if you had never stopped trying to show you were fit?
After that was my landlord. He attested to giving us permission to build the extra room in our home and how we are as tenants and how we have kept the home over the 5+yrs we have rented it. And how we picked that home for location to schools and the size to fit everyone. Then my longest friend (over 20yrs) testified to how it was while I was a victim of domestic violence but how I still made sure my home was clean, my kids fed and clothed and parented. He also testified to as soon as I cut out my abusive ex, was off the meds that had affected me so badly that was being prescribed by a doctor, that I turned my whole life around. That he has been in our home many times and how it appears, how happy the children are and how I have helped those in my community. And that my only desire from the entire time he has known me was to be a wife and a mother.
Next came my sons current worker. She testified that it was not her job to go through the entire file to check for facts even when my daughters last worker contacted her and stated to her that I am no longer being looked at as the one who abused my children. That they didn’t see my real motivation to cutting our my mother from my life, that there was a lot of miscommunication and misinformation when if came to what was really happening in my mothers home and the behaviors my children were showing during that time. So let me get this straight. Workers can admit to huge mistakes in judgments of a parent that led to a PGO but no worker after a PGO is granted is required to correct those mistakes in judgments by reuniting the family? So we all suffer because a worker didn’t do his due diligence for the rest of our lives? How is that in anyones best interest. My son thinks I could not take care of him and that he does not see me because I fought too much with his dad. How is that ok for him to think when that is not the case at all. I was off the meds for a year and a half prior to the PGO being granted. We had a fit home that entire time and still do. We had access to all the community supports we are now using at that time as well. The records, testimonies and so on are showing there are huge discrepancies. Glaring things left out, alter or just made up in documents used for court and all of this is ok? If I brought forward the whole file I can assure you that this is only the tip of the iceberg but I was told I was only allowed to address things from the PGO being granted to now.
She also testified that I did ask her repeatedly to re-evaluate me, to re-establish contact between my sons and their sister but that she would never consider me. Why would no worker consider re-evaluating me? I was no addict, I wasn’t a criminal, I wasn’t an abuser. All they had was that I have a mental illness. Does a mental illness make a parent unfit automatically? Have I appeared at any time in this court room as someone so mentally ill as to be unable to parent? She testified to her emails and records as being correct but no memory to most of them. Yet these show the behaviors of my son had no gone away and were very much present. It was shown that my son had made multiple requests to be returned to me yet no one told the therapist and no one told my sons assessor. Why was this desire not brought to their attention? It was shown that even when she was given information to show glaring issues in the records and files that she in no way attempted to verify if they could possibly be correct and if they were to even attempt to reunit my family.
Next came the childrens therapist and I must say I really like her. She attested to how my children are doing in therapy, how she conducts therapy and so on. She attested to the bond she was seeing between my sons and their caregivers but she also attested to the fact that nothing is 100% assured and she could not say that she knew 100% for sure that returning my sons to my care with a slow transition and the right supports in place would cause them irreparable harm. She said that there is a likely chance but when in all of this has my children or myself shown that we fall within a box of expectations. So many had expectations of what would happen if my daughter returned and that was wrong. So many had expectations’ that I could not parent at all. That was shown wrong as well. We keep showing people that when given the chance and the right supports that we can blow those expectations out of the water and really surprise people. Not everyone fits in a box. One thing I do know from her testimony is that if my children are returned to me I want her to recommend a therapist closer to our area and that I would enjoy working with her.
Next was my sons assessor. He spoke of the attachment that is there an developing. He spoke of how important that is and his concerns if that is suddenly cut. Yet he also stated it is like a crystal ball in predicting what could happened. He could not guarantee that with a slow transition, proper therapy and community supports that my children would suffer irreparable harm. He also stated RAD can be over come. He also stated that he found it very concerning how much information was completely omitted, changed or so on. Very concerning he stated as I listed off the biggest issues that had gotten on the record. He also stated no one mention my sons desire to move home and that he could not answer the question of the attachment of my sons to me as he has never met me or observed us together. But he also stated clearly that attachment is just one piece of the puzzle that the judge has to look at in determining this whole situation. Just one piece.
So if the only piece the department has is the attachment and no one can speak of the attachment that might be there from my sons to myself, yet I have passed in every other area, proven through professionals over several years of how fit I am and how much I have prepared, show over and over again to beg for re-evaluation, proven that workers were not doing their due diligence in going through the file to check info and yet writing court documents as facts, provided to professionals who were determining things for this trial as not getting accurate information and so on. Does that not clearly show that best interest over time of my sons was not being met I was doing all I could to meet them if just one person would consider me for re-evaluation?
Have I not proven point B in several ways? I can admit I do not have the knowledge or know how of the lawyers here. Yet I did find one case that was similar to my own out of BC. In this case that was before the Supreme Court of BC J.P was able to show that the department of family Services prejudge her and that the department didn’t do their due diligence in investigating her claims that her ex husband was abusing the children( which is what was happening with my mother abusing my children while in her care). The director viewed the ongoing complaints by the mother to be malicious and part of her mental illness and stated that was a sign of her mental illness and inability to parent the children. The director then led that Deputy Director to believe that JP was suffering from mental illness or distress so significant that she was a risk to herself or her children.(which is that happened with me. There was no way I could prove I was fit. Nothing I could have said or done that would be believed.)
An apprehension order was then granted on inaccurate and misleading factual information(In my case it was the PGO). The report was prepared in a manner that was inconsistent with the directors legal obligation to make full and frank disclosure, and it denied the plaintiffs procedural fairness and fundamental justice.(Have I not shown over and over again the misinformation, omitting of facts and so on in many documents and some even for court that would mislead the court to believe one thing over the actual truth?
A Mr. S knew of those errors. His subordinates involved in drafting of the report to the court also knew of some of them and ought to have know of the others. They failed to ensure the truth of the information provided to the provincial court. (Have I not also show this same thing over and over again, even in reports sent to the people making assessments about me and my children).
By February of 2010, nearly all the social workers involved with the case had determined that the children should be returned to the care of their father(in my case they wanted the children to reside with my mother and this is evident throughout the file) and they actively supported B’G’s claim for sole custody. As they did for my mother.
The children had several placements. From one aunt, to then an uncles and then a foster placement for 2yrs. At the first trial in May 2012 it was shown the director stated there was no merit to the abuse allegations made my JP and that sole custody should be given to the father. That JP was too mentally ill to parent. But during the trial it came out that JP’s allegations were correct and the director changed her direction and stated the children should be returned to her care. Even though the trial was still on going a reunification plan was written up so the children could reunit in a healthy way. JP was able to show during the first trial about the prejudice and the facts that the director was not doing their due diligence. I was not so lucky during my PGO.
But here I have clearly shown that to be the case. Workers have out right stated there was nothing I could have said or done to have them consider me for my sons. I have shown that facts were being altered, investigations not being done at all, my children required to suffer in silence all because of people prejudging me on my mental illness and being a victim of domestic violent(JP also suffered from domestic violence from her partner as well). That facts were being completely omitted. I have shown that for many years my sons best interests were not being met. Now we are here. Now the question is, in light of everything, not just the attachment(and even their witnesses had to state there could still be attachment there from my sons to me) have I not clearly shown point A and point B? Are we not that rare case that has shown that a return of my children, which is what this legislation is for, is the only outcome that would be in the best interest of all 3 children and my family.
In all of this, and sorry it was so long, I think it is clear that the only decision that is in everyones best interest is the rescinding of the PGO, getting a clear slow transition plan in place, setting up the therapies for my family and children and arranging the community supports needed to give them all the support they need to be reunited with their family. "
THat is it. Hopefully it answers some questions and helps to put many of the pieces together.
Friday, October 2, 2015
Society Needs To Stop Blaming The Victim Of Abuse
I am not one that usually will share other peoples sites or blogs much. But this specific one really hit home for me. And I urge anyone who has been raised by an abusive parent or been in an abusive relationship of any sort to read this. I also urge anyone who knows someone suffering from any kind of abuse to read this as well. It will be a huge eye opener to many:
What Happens When Targets Aren't Believed
For those who have read my blog in it's entirety or who know me personally can understand why this post hit home so strongly for me. For those who are reading this post as their first post into my blog when you go to the map of the blog page and read from the bottom down you will see that 99% of everyone I tried to turn to believed my mother(monster is better). Whether it was me turning to someone to help stop the abuse being done to me since I was a toddler or me reporting the abuse the step children were enduring by her hands or me reporting the abuse being done to my own children by her. No one wanted to listen. Everyone blamed me, blamed my mental illness. Turned their backs on me, shunned me and so on. When I was a child she convinced people I was schizophrenic(never have been) to excuse away the reports of abuse I was telling people. So people sympathized with her and believed her.
When it came to me reporting what was happening to my church leaders or to other agencies she would convince them I was mentally ill and was a rebellious teen lashing out because she took away privileges. When it came to my children she convinced everyone that I was abusing my children by telling the workers some of the milder things she was actually doing to my children but replacing my name with her own. She even tried convinced people I was schizophrenic again. Again people turned on me, shunned me and so on while she was given support and sympathy. She did this to my daughter as well.
She tore my sons from myself and their sister and didn't bat an eye. I had literally no support the majority of the time. Just about all my friends turned on me believing I was at fault. She had studied to be a paralegal so knew how to work the system well but she could not continue to play her games once contact was cut. And as those who have read my blog know after only a couple of months of no contact she turned on all the people she had convince that I was the bad person, the abuser, the addict, the person so mentally ill as to be a danger to herself. With no access to her main source/target she had no choice but to turn on others and that is what led to the truth coming out finally. Still it took another 4yrs and myself not giving up in seeking to have the truth out and getting cleared of all her false allegations for the truth about me to come out. But thanks to this monster and her vile, evil ways(who spouts her love of God all the time) my sons are ripped from their loving mothers arms and from their own sister. The pain and suffering she has caused will never end till the day my sons contact me and their sister and we can start healing. That day will come as I know many people who are adopted and they all searched out their bio family.
Society tells victims of abuse to open up and tell people but that is next to impossible now a days when blaming the victim is now the norm and the actual abuser is treated like they are hero's. In my monsters case she had an entire church convinced and they were supporting her financially, food wise and so on not realizing that the majority of what their congregation were giving to the children, especially my daughter was either being sold for the monsters own gains or thrown out to torture the children even more. She had people praising her for taking in her mentally ill daughters children all the while she was torturing them and permanently scaring them.
After I saved the step kids, there was no one to save me and no one that believed me. Now that a judge has cleared me of all abuse and cleared me of being a so called addict; as well as deeming me a fit parent I am hoping peoples eyes will finally be opened to the real me. Do I think any of those people who lashed out at me, shunned me, passed on her lies and so on are ever going to apologize now that the truth is out? Not really though it would be nice to hear. But I do hope all those many people will think twice before they do all those things to another person. As victims of abusers need support not condemnation.
I wasn't believed. No one has thought about what that does to the victim of ongoing abuse from their parent for 34yrs and then also from their first marriage. No one thinks how alone someone like me must have felt for so long, how hopeless, how alone. How many times I cried myself to sleep wondering how society can blame and hate the victim so much and support the abuser. Most victims don't have the strength to keep trying to be heard and to clear their name as I have. Now all I want is for people to now see me. A SURVIVOR and to realize this woman has over come more in their life time, ten times over, then any person should with little to no support for the majority of the journey. Yet still did all she could to help others. I may not be as socially adept as most people are but I am a good, strong woman who hopes my example will help others being abuse to find their voice and their strength.
PLEASE STOP BLAMING THE VICTIM.
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What Happens When Targets Aren't Believed
For those who have read my blog in it's entirety or who know me personally can understand why this post hit home so strongly for me. For those who are reading this post as their first post into my blog when you go to the map of the blog page and read from the bottom down you will see that 99% of everyone I tried to turn to believed my mother(monster is better). Whether it was me turning to someone to help stop the abuse being done to me since I was a toddler or me reporting the abuse the step children were enduring by her hands or me reporting the abuse being done to my own children by her. No one wanted to listen. Everyone blamed me, blamed my mental illness. Turned their backs on me, shunned me and so on. When I was a child she convinced people I was schizophrenic(never have been) to excuse away the reports of abuse I was telling people. So people sympathized with her and believed her.
When it came to me reporting what was happening to my church leaders or to other agencies she would convince them I was mentally ill and was a rebellious teen lashing out because she took away privileges. When it came to my children she convinced everyone that I was abusing my children by telling the workers some of the milder things she was actually doing to my children but replacing my name with her own. She even tried convinced people I was schizophrenic again. Again people turned on me, shunned me and so on while she was given support and sympathy. She did this to my daughter as well.
She tore my sons from myself and their sister and didn't bat an eye. I had literally no support the majority of the time. Just about all my friends turned on me believing I was at fault. She had studied to be a paralegal so knew how to work the system well but she could not continue to play her games once contact was cut. And as those who have read my blog know after only a couple of months of no contact she turned on all the people she had convince that I was the bad person, the abuser, the addict, the person so mentally ill as to be a danger to herself. With no access to her main source/target she had no choice but to turn on others and that is what led to the truth coming out finally. Still it took another 4yrs and myself not giving up in seeking to have the truth out and getting cleared of all her false allegations for the truth about me to come out. But thanks to this monster and her vile, evil ways(who spouts her love of God all the time) my sons are ripped from their loving mothers arms and from their own sister. The pain and suffering she has caused will never end till the day my sons contact me and their sister and we can start healing. That day will come as I know many people who are adopted and they all searched out their bio family.
Society tells victims of abuse to open up and tell people but that is next to impossible now a days when blaming the victim is now the norm and the actual abuser is treated like they are hero's. In my monsters case she had an entire church convinced and they were supporting her financially, food wise and so on not realizing that the majority of what their congregation were giving to the children, especially my daughter was either being sold for the monsters own gains or thrown out to torture the children even more. She had people praising her for taking in her mentally ill daughters children all the while she was torturing them and permanently scaring them.
After I saved the step kids, there was no one to save me and no one that believed me. Now that a judge has cleared me of all abuse and cleared me of being a so called addict; as well as deeming me a fit parent I am hoping peoples eyes will finally be opened to the real me. Do I think any of those people who lashed out at me, shunned me, passed on her lies and so on are ever going to apologize now that the truth is out? Not really though it would be nice to hear. But I do hope all those many people will think twice before they do all those things to another person. As victims of abusers need support not condemnation.
I wasn't believed. No one has thought about what that does to the victim of ongoing abuse from their parent for 34yrs and then also from their first marriage. No one thinks how alone someone like me must have felt for so long, how hopeless, how alone. How many times I cried myself to sleep wondering how society can blame and hate the victim so much and support the abuser. Most victims don't have the strength to keep trying to be heard and to clear their name as I have. Now all I want is for people to now see me. A SURVIVOR and to realize this woman has over come more in their life time, ten times over, then any person should with little to no support for the majority of the journey. Yet still did all she could to help others. I may not be as socially adept as most people are but I am a good, strong woman who hopes my example will help others being abuse to find their voice and their strength.
PLEASE STOP BLAMING THE VICTIM.
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Saturday, September 26, 2015
Reasons For The Loss of the PGO Review Trial
First thank you everyone for your outpouring of support. We have been overwhelmed by how much so many care from around the world. It was a hard day yesterday even though we all prepared for the loss a head of time. Isabeau was understandably very angry and upset. She does not understand how the social workers can be proven to lie on court documents, lie to each other, admit to making grave mistakes that led to the PGO yet because of how the law is written not have to be accountable to those mistakes which lead to permanent separation of all of us and continued abuse to her and her brothers. She is not angry in any way at the judge. We let her know about how he was bound by the legislation and that he gave us so much. He gave a more accurate history on the stand, though he did not have access to my evidence from prior to the PGO to prove someone of it was still lies. But he did state that my ex was the addict and not me. So that got corrected. He did state that my ex was the one who abused my children and not me. So that got corrected as well. And he did take their argument of my suicide attempts off the table because those were caused clearly by the medication I was on that was prescribed by a doctor.
He also kept her and her little brother safe by outright stating he disagreed with their parental assessor that they hired to assess me who on the stand stated I was fit on all levels but only fit for the 2 children in my current care. He said he out right disagreed with her about my ability to parent more children. Which was very important for our current other journey. So she and her youngest brother is safe and any future children in our home are safe as well. He clearly stated I proved I was fit, able and willing in every way and had proven it over a long period of time.
Also when he described some of my serious allegations he stated multiple times that he can't address them as he is bound to only look at the part of the act pertaining to this legislation. But that it is something that should be address in another court. He said he would give no judgment or verdict on those but there was indication that there might be some merit.(paraphrasing here). Hence why we will be bringing a Supreme Court Action in the future.
This judge did literally all he could based on the way he was bound by the legislation. And I think if the legislation had had the safe guards in it that would hold social workers accountable for their mistakes then he would have sent them home. We as a family hold no anger towards this judge in any way. He did all that he could do and it was in fact a lot that will help us with our next steps.
Now here is the problem. The way the legislation is written in our province is that once a PGO is granted there is NO requirement on CPS to relook at the parent at any time for any reason. I am not kidding. The way the law is written is once a PGO is granted the social workers main job is to look for a permanent placement for the children. A parent only has 30 days to appeal a PGO and if you have no money to do so you are out of luck regardless of if you can prove that there was clear bias, records altered, abuse not being investigated and so on. There is nothing in the legislation that if a worker makes grave mistakes that ended up causing a PGO that they have to be accountable. NOTHING. And if other workers realize it later they do not have to legally do anything to correct it. As they are protected by the legalities of the PGO being granted and their requirement to just find a permanent home for the children and not have to consider the parents at all at that point. See the problem?
Hence why I can't stop even though I lost my sons. All other parents have stopped at this point. I could only bring forth evidence in this trial that was after the PGO being granted and that was enough to show the clear omitting of facts on court documents, that was enough to show the falsification of facts in court documents, that was enough to prove the extreme abuse my children endured in that home and so on. The stuff from my children being apprehended in Feb 2008-May 2011 when they were removed from the monsters home is the stuff that really blows this out of the water. It proves the same as above as well as them breaking the legislation. Prior to a PGO all efforts must be made to keep the children with the family of origin. I can clearly show that they did not in any way attempt that. That their goal right from the beginning was to keep the children with my mother. I can clearly show they were prejudice against my mental illness/disability. I can clearly show my children were being abused for well over 2 yrs prior to removal by my mother and they did nothing to investigate any of my complaints about it. Nothing because they only saw my disability. There is a lot more I can show.
To change the legislation to protect other families from having this continue to happen I have to sue CPS in Supreme Court. Which I am already looking into doing. If I win, and a BC case just won this year on less evidence then what I have, then from there I can use that to change the legislation to have safe guards in it to protect families and to make social workers accountable for their mistakes. I may never get my kids back but I still can't sit back and do nothing as this continues to happen to others. Because of how well I proved I am fit and because of this other journey we are on my case currently is the strongest case to have a chance at changing the legislation. As I watch the pain my daughter is in it tells me I can't stand by and ignore what CPS here is doing and can do. They can steal children from families, admit grave mistakes and not have to do anything to fix with the end result being families being torn permanently apart for the sake of someone else being able to adopt and CPS making money that way. It is wrong on all levels.
It is literally Legal Kidnapping and there is currently nothing in the legislation to stop them from doing it and they all know it.
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He also kept her and her little brother safe by outright stating he disagreed with their parental assessor that they hired to assess me who on the stand stated I was fit on all levels but only fit for the 2 children in my current care. He said he out right disagreed with her about my ability to parent more children. Which was very important for our current other journey. So she and her youngest brother is safe and any future children in our home are safe as well. He clearly stated I proved I was fit, able and willing in every way and had proven it over a long period of time.
Also when he described some of my serious allegations he stated multiple times that he can't address them as he is bound to only look at the part of the act pertaining to this legislation. But that it is something that should be address in another court. He said he would give no judgment or verdict on those but there was indication that there might be some merit.(paraphrasing here). Hence why we will be bringing a Supreme Court Action in the future.
This judge did literally all he could based on the way he was bound by the legislation. And I think if the legislation had had the safe guards in it that would hold social workers accountable for their mistakes then he would have sent them home. We as a family hold no anger towards this judge in any way. He did all that he could do and it was in fact a lot that will help us with our next steps.
Now here is the problem. The way the legislation is written in our province is that once a PGO is granted there is NO requirement on CPS to relook at the parent at any time for any reason. I am not kidding. The way the law is written is once a PGO is granted the social workers main job is to look for a permanent placement for the children. A parent only has 30 days to appeal a PGO and if you have no money to do so you are out of luck regardless of if you can prove that there was clear bias, records altered, abuse not being investigated and so on. There is nothing in the legislation that if a worker makes grave mistakes that ended up causing a PGO that they have to be accountable. NOTHING. And if other workers realize it later they do not have to legally do anything to correct it. As they are protected by the legalities of the PGO being granted and their requirement to just find a permanent home for the children and not have to consider the parents at all at that point. See the problem?
Hence why I can't stop even though I lost my sons. All other parents have stopped at this point. I could only bring forth evidence in this trial that was after the PGO being granted and that was enough to show the clear omitting of facts on court documents, that was enough to show the falsification of facts in court documents, that was enough to prove the extreme abuse my children endured in that home and so on. The stuff from my children being apprehended in Feb 2008-May 2011 when they were removed from the monsters home is the stuff that really blows this out of the water. It proves the same as above as well as them breaking the legislation. Prior to a PGO all efforts must be made to keep the children with the family of origin. I can clearly show that they did not in any way attempt that. That their goal right from the beginning was to keep the children with my mother. I can clearly show they were prejudice against my mental illness/disability. I can clearly show my children were being abused for well over 2 yrs prior to removal by my mother and they did nothing to investigate any of my complaints about it. Nothing because they only saw my disability. There is a lot more I can show.
To change the legislation to protect other families from having this continue to happen I have to sue CPS in Supreme Court. Which I am already looking into doing. If I win, and a BC case just won this year on less evidence then what I have, then from there I can use that to change the legislation to have safe guards in it to protect families and to make social workers accountable for their mistakes. I may never get my kids back but I still can't sit back and do nothing as this continues to happen to others. Because of how well I proved I am fit and because of this other journey we are on my case currently is the strongest case to have a chance at changing the legislation. As I watch the pain my daughter is in it tells me I can't stand by and ignore what CPS here is doing and can do. They can steal children from families, admit grave mistakes and not have to do anything to fix with the end result being families being torn permanently apart for the sake of someone else being able to adopt and CPS making money that way. It is wrong on all levels.
It is literally Legal Kidnapping and there is currently nothing in the legislation to stop them from doing it and they all know it.
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